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Integration of first part of the finalized script

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mentoring/mentoring.py
......@@ -117,4 +117,30 @@ class MentoringBlock(XBlock, XBlockWithChildrenFragmentsMixin):
load_resource('templates/xml/004_deciding_on_your_improvement_goal.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 5, Checking your improvement goal",
load_resource('templates/xml/005_checking_your_improvement_goal.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 6, Past attempts at change",
load_resource('templates/xml/006_past_attempts_at_change.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 7, Doing / not doing instead",
load_resource('templates/xml/007_doing_not_doing_instead.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 8, Checking your doing / not doing instead",
load_resource('templates/xml/008_checking_your_doing_not_doing_instead.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 9, Worry box",
load_resource('templates/xml/009_worry_box.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 10, Hidden commitments",
load_resource('templates/xml/010_hidden_commitments.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 11, Checking your hidden commitments",
load_resource('templates/xml/011_checking_your_hidden_commitments.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 12, Your immune system",
load_resource('templates/xml/012_your_immune_system.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 13, Checking the map",
load_resource('templates/xml/013_checking_the_map.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 14, Big assumptions",
load_resource('templates/xml/014_big_assumptions.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 15, Checking your big assumptions",
load_resource('templates/xml/015_checking_your_big_assumptions.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 16, Revising your entire map",
load_resource('templates/xml/016_revising_your_entire_map.xml')),
("Mentoring - Page 17, Checking the entire map",
load_resource('templates/xml/017_checking_the_entire_map.xml')),
("Mentoring - Annex, Help on revising immunity to change maps",
load_resource('templates/xml/800_help_on_revising_immunity_to_change_maps.xml')),
]
templates/xml/001_pre_goal_brainstorm.xml
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Pre-Goal Brainstrom</h3>
<p>What goals are you considering working on? Before choosing your goal, it's helpful to do some reflection exercises.</p>
<h3>Getting closer to your goal</h3>
<p>Welcome to the first step of the Immunity-to-Change&#x2122; process! Here, you will brainstorm some options for your improvement goal.</p>
<p>What goals are you considering working on for this course? Before choosing your goal, it's helpful to do some reflection exercises.</p>
<p>Think about what would you most like to get better at, or improve upon. The goal you choose to work on during the course--</p>
<ul>
<li>should be a "personal growth" goal vs. a "therapy goal" - e.g., 'to be more decisive,' 'to be a better listener,' 'to speak up more,' 'to be more spontaneous,' 'to be better organized,' 'to be less critical.' Not: 'to get over my depression,' 'come to terms with my parents' divorce,' 'work through a trauma.'</li>
<li>should be something you've tried to succeed at in the past, but have not made the progress you wanted (or the progress has been too temporary) [this will almost ensure you are picking an 'adaptive' vs. a 'technical' improvement goal]</li>
<li>should matter to you enough that you will want to stay connected to it throughout the course, but should not feel so sensitive or raw that you would be uncomfortable sharing it with the members of your online section (if you choose to do so). The teaching team will always be able to see your diary.</li>
<li>should be a "personal growth" goal vs. a "therapy goal"&#x2014;e.g., "to be more decisive," "to be a better listener," "to speak up more," "to be more spontaneous," "to be better organized," "to be less critical." Not: "to get over my depression," "come to terms with my parents' divorce," "work through a trauma."</li>
<li>should be something you've tried to succeed at in the past, but have not made the progress you wanted (or the progress has been too temporary). This will almost ensure you are picking an 'adaptive' versus a 'technical' Improvement Goal.</li>
<li>should matter to you enough that you will want to stay connected to it throughout the course, but should not feel so sensitive or raw that you would be uncomfortable sharing it with the teaching staff and other students (if you choose to do so). The teaching team will always be able to see your diary; it will always be your choice whether to share your diary with any fellow students.</li>
</ul>
<p>Do not edit yourself at this point. There are no wrong answers. Use this space to brainstorm.</p>
<p>Do not edit yourself at this point. There are no wrong answers. Use this space to brainstorm several possible goals.</p>
</html>
<answer name="pre-goal-brainstorm" />
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templates/xml/002_getting_feedback.xml
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<answer name="pre-goal-brainstorm" read_only="true" />
<html>
<p>Before you select from among them, consider getting input from others. People that know you well may have a different idea of what changes would benefit you most. To complete this exercise, seek <strong>input from at least 3 people who know you well</strong>. What do they think would be a valuable thing for you to get better at? You might ask them: "Given how well you know me, if I could get significantly better at just one thing, what would you suggest that one thing should be?"</p>
<p>Before you select from among them, consider getting input from others. People that know you well may have a different idea of what changes would benefit you most. To complete this exercise, seek input from at least 3 people who know you well. What do they think would be a valuable thing for you to get better at? You might ask them: "Given how well you know me, if I could get significantly better at just one thing, what would you suggest that one thing should be?"</p>
<p>If you don't wish to ask anyone for feedback at this point, you may also think about past evaluations and feedback you have received.</p>
<p>Use this space to describe the feedback you received. What do they think about these goals? Do they think they are relevant to you? What goals did they mention that you may not have thought of? Do those additional goals make sense to you?</p>
<p>Use this space to describe the feedback you received. What did the people who know you well think you should focus on? What do they think about your brainstormed list of goals? Do they think they are relevant to you? What goals did they mention that you may not have thought of? Do those additional goals make sense to you?</p>
</html>
<answer name="pre-goal-feedback" />
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templates/xml/003_reflecting_on_feedback.xml
......@@ -2,10 +2,15 @@
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Reflecting on your feedback</h3>
<p>Now that you have received feedback from others, would you like to revise your brainstorm list? Which goals are the most interesting to you now? Which goals are you most considering pursuing?</p>
<p>Now that you have received feedback from others, would you like to revise your original brainstorm list?</p>
</html>
<answer name="pre-goal-brainstorm" read_only="true" />
<html>
<p>Which goals are the most interesting to you now? Which goals are you most considering pursuing? Enter these below.</p>
</html>
<answer name="pre-goal-brainstorm2" />
</mentoring>
</vertical>
templates/xml/004_deciding_on_your_improvement_goal.xml
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<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Deciding on your improvement goal</h3>
<p>Now it's time to make your decision on which improvement goal you will pursue.</p>
<h4>(1) Write your goal in a sentence or phrase.</h4>
<p>Now it's time to make your decision on which Improvement Goal you will pursue. If you wish to begin by reviewing your pre-goal brainstorm work, you can TODO-LINK (instructions on how to access the Diary area).</p>
<p>(1) Write your goal in a sentence or phrase. Begin with "I am committed to getting better at&#x2026;" and complete the sentence.</p>
</html>
<answer name="improvement-goal" />
<html>
<h4>(2) Say why this goal is important.</h4>
<p>(2) Explain why this goal is important to you. It may seem odd that we are asking you to explain your goal. But what you choose for your Improvement Goal is a crucial part of this process because the entire course hinges on it. No matter how powerful the immunity-to-change process may be, if you are working with a goal that you haven't fully thought through or is not highly important to you, your whole experience is likely to be much weaker.</p>
</html>
<answer name="improvement-goal-importance" />
</mentoring>
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templates/xml/005_checking_your_improvement_goal.xml
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<answer name="improvement-goal" read_only="true" />
<quizz name="goal-true" type="yes-no-unsure">
<quizz name="goal-true" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Is this goal true for you?</question>
<tip reject="no">Text on why it is important to choose a goal that is true for you and instructions to go back and revise your goal to make it meet the criteria.</tip>
<tip reject="unsure">Help on what true means.</tip>
<tip reject="maybenot">In the end, all the feedback you have gotten from others should not lead you to choose an Improvement Goal that does not also feel true and important to you. If you have chosen a goal that is based on what others want for you, but at the end of the day, it is not something you are really committed to for yourself, you are going to find it hard to have a powerful experience diagnosing and overturning your immunities. While we think the Immunity-to-Change technology is an amazing tool for people to use to make lasting change in their lives, you must put the tool to work. And the work is not easy. If your starting goal doesn't feel true for you, it is unlikely you will feel motivated enough to do the work necessary to make lasting change. We suggest you choose a new goal. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">If a goal is true for you, that means it is one that you genuinely feel in your own heart to be something that you want to improve. For example, maybe others have told you that you should get better at staying organized and meeting deadlines. The question is, do you really want that for yourself? Try to be as honest as you can about what you really want. Maybe you know that the reason you are disorganized and not meeting deadlines is because you hate your work. The goal that feels true to you would then be I am committed to getting better at finding a career I will love. What is in your heart?</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="goal-implicate" type="yes-no-unsure">
<quizz name="goal-implicate" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Does this goal implicate you?</question>
<tip reject="no">Text on why it is important to choose a goal that implicates you and instructions to go back and revise your goal to make it meet the criteria.</tip>
<tip reject="unsure">Help on what 'implicates you' means.</tip>
<tip reject="maybenot">Since the Immunity-to-Change process focuses on your own growth and change, it is important to be clear about the ways you are hoping to change and improve. Your goal implicates you if it is clear that you will need to change in some way (not just that others need to shape up). If you don't have any control over your goal, it doesn't implicate you. If your goal is so vague that it isn't clear what about it you will need to change, it doesn't implicate you. For example, if you are thinking of a commitment such as "I am committed to everyone on my team being honest with each other," consider what you need to get better at to help your team be more honest. A commitment that implicates you might be, "I am committed to being more honest with my team members to encourage them to be more honest with me and each other." If your starting commitment doesn't make clear how you are implicated in the change you hope to see, go back and revise your goal before continuing. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Your goal implicates you if it is clear that you must get better at something. Your goal should focus on something you can control. It should focus on something specific about yourself that you want to improve. If your goal is about changes you are hoping others will make, think about what your own role in that might be. For example, if you are thinking of a commitment such as, "I am committed to everyone in my team being honest with each other," consider what you need to get better at to help your team be more honest. A commitment that implicates you might be, "I am committed to being more honest with my team members to encourage them to be more honest with me and each other.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="goal-improvement" type="yes-no-unsure">
<quizz name="goal-improvement" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Is there room for improvement?</question>
<tip reject="no">Text on why it is important to choose a goal that has room for improvement and instructions to go back and revise your goal to make it meet the criteria.</tip>
<tip reject="unsure">Help on what 'room for improvement' means.</tip>
<tip reject="maybenot">If you have already realized your goal or are quite close to realizing your goal, you are unlikely to have a powerful learning experience in this course. The Immunity-to-Change process is designed to help you uncover how you are stuck and unable to make change on an important goal. If you are not stuck in your progress toward a goal, go back and choose a new goal where there is lots of room for improvement. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Room for improvement means that you have not yet come close to fully accomplishing your goal. You are not even close to having 100% success. You probably don't even have 50% success. You could not accomplish this change in a weekend. There is room for improvement if you have made a little progress but then gotten stuck in your efforts to change. Or, it maybe you reached your goal temporarily but were unable to sustain that improvement. Or, maybe you feel you have gotten stuck before you even began to make improvements.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="goal-important" type="rating-unsure" low="Not at all important to me" high="Very important to me">
<quizz name="goal-important" type="rating-understand" low="Not at all important to me" high="Very important to me">
<question>How important is it to you?</question>
<tip reject="1,2,3">Text on why it is important to choose a goal that is important to you and instructions to go back and revise your goal to make it meet the criteria.</tip>
<tip reject="unsure">Help on what 'important' means.</tip>
<tip reject="1,2,3">The Immunity-to-Change process helps you uncover some of the core beliefs and assumptions you have held that are preventing you from making change. While the insights and changes that come from uncovering these beliefs and exploring them can be transformational, you will probably only be willing to undertake this work if your Improvement Goal is quite important you. If yours isn't, go back and identify one that feels very important to you. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">A goal is important if it is one that could make a big difference in helping you reach your goals in your work life or your personal life (or both). You are willing to work hard on it. You are interesting in spending some time and energy on it and doing some thinking about why you haven't been able to improve before now. For most people, an Improvement Goal does not focus only a small detail of your life (e.g., remembering to say thank you sometimes when the bus driver is nice to me) but on something that feels pretty central, something that deserves some serious attention (e.g., being more compassionate to my wife).</tip>
</quizz>
<message type="completed">
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templates/xml/006_past_attempts_at_change.xml 0 → 100644
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Past attempts at change</h3>
<p>Finally, you may wish to reflect on your past attempts at improvement. What previous attempts have you made to make this change? How did you attempt to implement this change? What process did you undertake to implement this change? What were the results? This reflection will help get your mental wheels turning for the first step in the next lesson.</p>
</html>
<answer name="past-attempts" />
</mentoring>
</vertical>
templates/xml/007_doing_not_doing_instead.xml 0 → 100644
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Doing / Not Doing Instead</h3>
<p>We all do things that can run counter to, oppose, or hinder our goals. What specifically are you doing or not doing instead of taking steps to reach your Improvement Goal?</p>
<blockquote>Example: Fred is an aspiring novelist. His goal is to "get better at integrating creative writing into my daily life" but something he does instead is "I surf the internet when I have sat down to write." Something he does not do instead is "I don't schedule writing time into my week."</blockquote>
<p>Write your "Doing / Not Doing Instead" here.</p>
</html>
<answer name="doing-not-doing-instead" />
</mentoring>
</vertical>
templates/xml/008_checking_your_doing_not_doing_instead.xml 0 → 100644
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Checking your Doing / Not Doing Instead</h3>
<p>Now, let's make sure your "Doing / Not Doing Insteads" are as clear as possible. Here is what you wrote:</p>
</html>
<answer name="doing-not-doing-instead" read_only="true" />
<quizz name="doing-not-doing-behavior" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Is each item you entered a behavior?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">You might have something in your list that isn't clearly a behavior, but instead is more like an inner state-something that is a description of a feeling or attitude you have. For example, you might have written something like "Don't like deadlines." If so, you should be able to convert that entry easily into a behavior. Ask yourself how that inner experience show up as behavior. You might list: "I don't meet deadlines" or "I complain to my colleagues about the deadlines we have to meet." When we get to column 3, it will make your work and learning much easier if you have been very specific and thorough in listing behaviors in column 2. If your list doesn't include a handful of behaviors that undermine your Improvement Goal, go back and revise that list to make it meet the criteria. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Behaviors include what you do (your actions, what you say, as well as how you say or do things). Behaviors include whatever would be captured by a video camera filming you (with sound). Behaviors can also include what you say to yourself in your own head. For example, if you often silently tell yourself "Don't be selfish!" (and that self-talk undermines your column 1 Improvement Goal) you can list that as a behavior. If there are behaviors you should be doing to make progress on your column 1 Improvement Goal and you aren't currently or regularly doing them, you can list those too as examples of what you are "not doing."</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="doing-not-doing-work-against" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Do these behaviors work against achieving your goal?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">While it may be tempting to include all the things you are doing on behalf of your Improvement Goal, we aren't asking for that list. Just make as long and juicy a list as you can of the things you do and don't do that undermine your column 1 goal. This probably won't feel so good because you will feel like you are "telling on" yourself and admitting to all of the ways you are "naughty." But as you'll see, this list of behaviors will be a very valuable resource to you in helping you learn something new and important about yourself. If your list of "doing/not doing insteads" isn't a list of a handful of behaviors that undermine your column 1, go back and revise that list to make it meets the criteria. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Behaviors that work against achieving your goal are the things that you do that do not move your closer to your goal. Instead, they move you further away. For example, if my Improvement Goal is "to get better at listening to my employees," some behaviors that work against that might be: "I don't ask my employees to tell me what they think. I do all the talking. When employees do talk, I often interrupt them." All of those behaviors take me further away from my Improvement Goal.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="doing-not-doing-not-explain-why" type="yes-maybe-understand" labels="Yes, I don't explain why;Maybe I do explain a little;I don't understand">
<question>Do you make sure not to explain why you are doing those things?</question>
<tip reject="maybe">It may be tempting to include all the reasons why you are doing things that run counter to your column 1 Improvement Goal and to start identifying how you could start making changes to your behavior. But please don't include these reasons. Just make as long and juicy a list as you can of the things you do and don't do that undermine your column 1 goal. This probably won't feel so good, because you will feel like you are "telling on" yourself and admitting to all of the ways you are "naughty." But as you'll see, this list of behaviors will be a very valuable resource to you in helping you learn something new and important about yourself. If your list of "doing/not doing insteads" isn't a list of a handful of behaviors that undermine your column 1, go back and revise that list to make it meets the criteria. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Explaining why you are doing these things means you are including the reasons for the things you do (or don't do) that undermine your column 1 Improvement Goal. For example, if my Improvement Goal is "to get better at taking care of myself," and I wrote in column 2 "I don't take enough time to relax at the end of the day," I should not include explanations about why I don't take enough time at the end of the day. We are sure you have good reasons! But don't include them here.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="doing-not-doing-not-explain-how" type="yes-maybe-understand" labels="Yes, I don't explain how I will change;Maybe I do explain a little;I don't understand">
<question>Do you make sure not to explain how you will change?</question>
<tip reject="maybe">You may want to start explaining what you now plan to do to eliminate, stop, or cut out these behaviors. But that means that you're trying to engage in improvement by assuming you can just cut out your bad behaviors or just start doing new, more productive things. You are taking what we call a New Year's Resolution approach to change, assuming that when you know that what you are doing is "naughty," you can will yourself to make those changes. As with New Year's Resolutions, we find that this approach does not often lead to success. Maybe you have had that experience too? Immunity to Change presents a different approach to change, so please put your attempts to start solving your problems on hold for a while longer. We're still getting a clear picture of the problem, and that is our focus for now. We think you'll find it worth the wait! If your list of "doing/not doing insteads" isn't a list of a handful of behaviors that undermine your column 1, go back and revise that list so that each entry meets the criteria. You can revise your work by TODO-LINK.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">If you are explaining how you will change, you are coming up with ideas and plans for how to stop doing these "bad" behaviors. You are seeing that you are working against your goal, and you probably want to stop doing that! But, we find that simply trying to change bad behaviors does not often lead to success for many people. Maybe you have had that experience too? Immunity to Change presents a different approach to change, so please put don't start trying to solve your problems yet. We're still getting a clear picture of the problem, and that is our focus for now. We think you'll find it worth the wait!</tip>
</quizz>
<message type="completed">
Great! You have indicated that you have listed behaviors that work against your goal, without explaining why you do those things or how you will change. This approach will allow you to move onto to the next step with clarity.
</message>
</mentoring>
</vertical>
templates/xml/009_worry_box.xml 0 → 100644
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Worry box</h3>
<p>Here are your "Doing / Not Doing Insteads."</p>
</html>
<answer name="doing-not-doing-instead" read_only="true" />
<html>
<p>Now, let's fill out the "worry box." If you were to consider doing the opposite of each of those behaviors in Column 2, what are the fears, worries, feelings of loss that come up for you?</p>
<blockquote>
<p>Let's return to Fred, our aspiring novelist whose goal is to "get better at integrating creative writing into my daily life" but instead admits that he surfs the internet instead of writing and doesn't schedule writing time into his week.</p>
<p>Fred thinks about how it would feel to give himself a set schedule for writing and hold himself to it. He tries to imagine what it would be like to have and keep a schedule. Why is that such a turn-off? What feeling of dread arises? Fred thinks for a moment and realizes that he only wants to write when inspiration strikes. He loves writing when he has a creative impulse and lots of energy to pursue his ideas. Writing on a schedule seems boring and routine. It sounds like the opposite of creativity and inspiration. He makes the following entry in his worry box:</p>
<p>Worry Box: If I were to maintain a writing schedule, I'm afraid of feeling stifled, dull, like I am plodding along.</p>
</blockquote>
</html>
<quizz name="list-common-worries" type="yes-no">
<question>You can enter your worries below, or you can view some common worries first. Would you like to see a list of some of the most common fears and worries people list?</question>
<tip display="yes">
<html>
<p>If I were to do the opposite of one of my column 2 doing/not doing instead behaviors&#x2026;</p>
<ul>
<li>I am afraid of looking stupid / being rejected</li>
<li>I am afraid of being vulnerable, open to rejection</li>
<li>I am afraid of letting others down</li>
<li>I am afraid of looking weak and ineffective</li>
<li>I am afraid of looking selfish</li>
<li>I am afraid of being seen as controlling or a micro-manager</li>
<li>I am afraid of failing, being a loser</li>
<li>I am afraid of looking bad</li>
<li>I am afraid of feeling vulnerable</li>
<li>I am afraid of being alone</li>
<li>I am afraid of showing what I care about, what I can do</li>
<li>I am afraid people won't like me</li>
<li>I am afraid of looking like I think I am superior</li>
<li>I am afraid something will go wrong and it will be my fault</li>
</ul>
</html>
</tip>
<tip display="no">You can read this later by changing your answer to Yes.</tip>
</quizz>
<html>
<p>Enter your worries here. Make sure you consider doing the opposite of each of the behaviors you listed in the "Doing / Not Doing Instead."</p>
</html>
<answer name="worry-box" />
</mentoring>
</vertical>
templates/xml/010_hidden_commitments.xml 0 → 100644
<vertical>
<mentoring>
<html>
<h3>Hidden Commitments</h3>
<p>We hold Hidden Commitments to prevent the fears or losses in our worry box from happening. In many cases, these Hidden Commitments keep us from even feeling the fears or losses. They protect us from those bad feelings and bad results.</p>
<p>Many times, you can simply change the wording in your worry box, converting your list of fears and worries into a list of Hidden Commitments.</p>
<blockquote>
<p>That is what Fred did. As you'll recall, Fred wants to get better at integrating creative writing into his daily life but instead admits that he surfs the internet instead of writing and doesn't schedule writing time into his week. If he were to schedule writing time, he worries he would feel like his creativity is being stifled. He converts this worry into the language of a commitment.</p>
<p>Worry: I'm afraid of feeling stifled, dull, like I am plodding along.</p>
<p>Hidden Commitment: I am committed to never feeling stifled or under force.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Ideally, you want these commitments to capture as much of the danger/worry/dread from which you have been protecting yourself as you can. In some cases, you may look to see if it makes sense to change the wording a little bit when you convert your fears and worries to commitments. Or, you may add entries that really express the ways you have been keeping yourself out of that territory. Fred could try different ways of wording his commitment to get to what is most fearsome and dangerous for him.</p>
<blockquote>
<p>Other possible Hidden Commitments for Fred:</p>
<ul>
<li>I am committed to experiencing myself only as brilliant, inspired, listening only to the beautiful voice of my muse.</li>
<li>I am committed to not finding out whether I have the discipline and drive to be a writer and not just a dabbler.</li>
<li>I am committed to preventing myself from finding out that I don't actually have anything meaningful to say in my writing.</li>
</ul>
</blockquote>
</html>
<quizz name="display-common-hidden-commitments" type="yes-no">
<question>You can enter your Hidden Commitments below, or you can view some common commitments first. Would you like to see a list of some of the most common Hidden Commitments?</question>
<tip display="yes">
<html>
<ul>
<li>I am committed to not looking stupid / being rejected</li>
<li>I am committed to not being vulnerable, open to rejection</li>
<li>I am committed to never letting others down</li>
<li>I am committed to always making others happy</li>
<li>I am committed to not looking weak and ineffective</li>
<li>I am committed to not looking selfish</li>
<li>I am committed to not being seen as controlling or a micro-manager</li>
<li>I am committed to not being a loser</li>
<li>I am committed to always looking good</li>
<li>I am committed to not being vulnerable</li>
<li>I am committed to not being alone</li>
<li>I am committed to hiding what I care about, what I can do</li>
<li>I am committed to having everyone like me</li>
<li>I am committed to hiding my feelings of being superior</li>
<li>I am committed to not being responsible for anything going wrong</li>
</ul>
</html>
</tip>
<tip display="no">You can read this later by changing your answer to Yes.</tip>
</quizz>
<answer name="hidden-commitments" />
</mentoring>
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<h3>Your Immune System</h3>
<p>Now, let's take a look at the picture that is emerging in your map. It is a picture of your immune system:</p>
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<p>The arrows you see in your map represent two powerful forces working in opposition. Each force is generating lots of energy, with the net effect of keeping you in the exact same place: immune to change. The arrows suggest there is a single "system" at work across the three columns. We call this system an "immune system" because we believe the mind, like the body, has an immune system &#x2014; an invisible, ceaseless dynamic that exists for one purpose: to keep us out of trouble, to protect us, even to save our lives. However, our immune systems &#x2014; physical or mental &#x2014; can still get us in trouble, even when they are working on our behalf. When the immune system is in error, when it sees a danger that is not there, it will go to work "protecting" us from the very thing we may need in order to thrive.</p>
<p>Now, describe how your own immune system is working both to protect you from and danger AND is simultaneously preventing you from making progress on your Improvement Goal.</p>
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<answer name="immune-system-description" />
<quizz name="immune-system-described" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Were you able to describe how your own immune system is working?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">
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<p>Your entries in column 3 should show you why simply trying to change your column 2 behaviors (your "doing/not doing insteads") doesn't work. You can't just will yourself to change your behavior and make progress on your Improvement Goal, because the more you do change, the more uncomfortable you will actually get. It is as if you are sitting behind the wheel of a car with your right foot on the gas. Your right foot is working on your Improvement Goal. You step on the gas, trying to speed up, to get more momentum going in the direction you'd like to be moving. You step on the gas even harder. The car engine is revving. The car is even shaking as it holds this increased force. But the car isn't actually going anywhere. Why?</p>
<p>The car isn't going anywhere because your left foot is on the brake. The harder your right foot presses on the gas (by making plans and resolutions to go to the gym), the harder your left foot steps on the brake. The foot on the brake is working to make sure you don't take yourself into the dangerous territory where your fears and worries live.</p>
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<tip reject="understand">Your Improvement Goal is how you pull in one direction. Your Hidden Commitments show you how you also pull in the opposite direction. Your immune system shows you how you have been working very hard to move in both directions at the same time. Can you describe in your own words how your own specific immune system is working using your column 1 goal and your Hidden Commitments?</tip>
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Great! You have indicated that you can see and describe how your immune system functions to protect you from danger AND is also preventing you from making progress on your Improvement Goal. You are ready to move on to the next step.
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<h3>Checking the map</h3>
<p>Let's make sure your entries so far meet the criteria for a successful map. Here is your current map:</p>
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<mentoring-table name="TODO-MAP" />
<quizz name="map-interesting" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Does this map look a least a little bit interesting to you?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">Identifying your own Hidden Commitments provides you with a picture of your personal immunity to change. At this point, you should have arrived at something that intrigues you because it sheds new light on the struggles you have been having in making progress on your Improvement Goal. Understanding your immune system should help you better understand how and why you get stuck. If you are not intrigued, it might be that you have misunderstood some aspects of the directions for how to make your immunity map. Or, maybe you understood, but need to reflect more deeply to see if there are new insights you could come to that would be more interesting for you to consider.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Does your map help you understand yourself? Does it get and keep your attention? Can you see why and how you have been struggling to change?</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="map-powerful" type="rating-understand" low="Least" high="Most">
<question>Does this map, as a whole, feel powerful to you?</question>
<tip reject="1,2,3">If your map doesn't yet feel powerful to you, we suggest you do some more reflection to see if you can increase its power. Our immune systems, when they are functioning, can be enormously powerful because they show us how and why we may be spending a great deal of energy keeping things exactly the way they are. We are spending a great deal of energy to change nothing. If that is the case, there is very likely a powerful dynamic in play. Seeing that dynamic clearly allows us a much better chance of altering it. If the immune system you have sketched across your first three columns does not feel powerful to you, it might be that you have misunderstood some aspects of the directions for how to make your immunity map. Or, maybe you understood but need to reflect more deeply to see if there are new insights you could come to that would be more interesting for you to consider.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Does seeing your map (your immunity to change) have a strong effect on you? Does it show you how your immune system has been influencing you, controlling you?</tip>
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<quizz name="map-explore-more" type="rating-understand" low="Least" high="Most">
<question>Is this a map that you'd like to spend more time exploring?</question>
<tip reject="1,2,3">Your Immunity-to-Change will form the basis for all the learning you will do in this online course. If you haven't diagnosed an immune system that you want to spend time exploring, you are going to have a hard time doing the work to overturn your immune system. At this point, you won't yet know how to solve your problem and overturn your immunity. That will come later. We can't get to the right solution if we don't truly understand the problem. We will come to a solution, but only after you have "gotten the problem right." If you aren't interested in the immunity you have sketched out so far, we would advise you to spend some more time with your map until you have a picture of an immune system that you would like to explore further to eventually solve. You might even consider starting over again from the beginning.</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Would you like to learn more about your immune system? In this course, you will learn more about why you have this immune system. You will learn more about how your immune system has been working. And you will learn more about how you can change your immune system.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="map-interesting-more-ideas" type="yes-no">
<question>Do you want some more ideas about how to revise your map to make it more interesting to you?</question>
<tip reject="yes">TODO-LINK to "Help on Revising Immunity to Change Maps."</tip>
</quizz>
<message type="completed">
Fantastic. You have indicated that you find your map to be interesting, powerful, and is something you'd like to explore more. You have also indicated that you do not wish to see additional resources on revising your map (TODO-LINK though you can access these resources at any time by clicking here). You have the chance to explore your map further in the next steps and throughout the course.
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<h3>Big assumptions</h3>
<p>There are two options you can follow here to create your Big Assumptions.</p>
<p>Option 1) Use deduction. Look at one of your Hidden Commitments. Now ask yourself, "what assumptions must I be making that make this commitment necessary for me?" "What could be the assumptions I hold that sustain this commitment?" For example, if I am committed to always being right, what might I be assuming? Maybe&#x2026;</p>
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<li>I assume that if I am not right, I can't feel good about myself.</li>
<li>I assume that if I am not right, others won't trust me.</li>
<li>I assume that if I am not right, no one will like me.</li>
<li>I assume I am either right or wrong.</li>
<li>I assume I should never say or do something that might turn out to be wrong.</li>
<li>I assume that if I am always right, I will always feel good about myself.</li>
<li>Only you know which Big Assumption is true for you.</li>
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<p>Sometimes worry box entries (rather than Hidden Commitments) reveal assumptions.</p>
<blockquote>
<p>Here is Fred's worry box entry: "If I were to schedule writing time, I'm afraid I would feel like my creativity is being stifled." This assumption underlies that fear: If I were to schedule writing time, I assume that I would feel like my creativity is being stifled. That is an assumption Fred is making. Fred may feel that assumption is 100% true. Or he may know it is not 100% true, but also admit that he acts as if it is. Or he may be unsure about whether it is true or not.</p>
<p>Option 2) Use the formula. Choose a 3rd column commitment and consider its inverse (e.g. "I am committed to never revealing that I don't have all the answers." The inverse is "I do reveal I don't have all the answers.") Now construct a sentence, the first half of which is in this form: I assume that if [inverse of 3rd column entry] THEN: the second half of the sentence will be your honest completion of the sentence. e.g. I assume that if I do reveal I don't have all the answers&#x2026; then I will be considered a fraud.</p>
<p>Let's work with Fred's Hidden Commitment: "I am committed to never feeling stifled or under force." The inverse if "I do feel stifled or forced." His formula is: "I assume that if I do feel stifled or forced, then I will feel absolutely awful, my creative spark will be extinguished, and it might be permanent."</p>
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<p>Please review your map so far, especially your Hidden Commitments, before entering your Big Assumptions.</p>
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<p>Enter your Big Assumptions here.</p>
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<h3>Checking your Big Assumptions</h3>
<p>Now, let's make sure your Big Assumptions meet the criteria for appropriate entries. Here is what you wrote:</p>
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<answer name="big-assumptions" read_only="true" />
<quizz name="big-assumptions-necessary" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Do your Big Assumptions make your column 3 commitments absolutely necessary?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">Your Big Assumptions should show why one or more of your Hidden Commitments feel absolutely necessary. Big Assumptions are beliefs about ourselves, others, or the world that provide the reasons why we are committed to things we have named in column 3. You should be able to follow your map backwards &#x2014; to see how the Big Assumptions make your third column commitments necessary; how the third column commitments lead to your second column behaviors; and how these behaviors undermine your column 1 goals. If your Big Assumptions don't explain why your Hidden Commitments are necessary, go back and revise your entry to make it meet the criteria by TODO-LINK</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Big Assumptions are beliefs that lead us to hold tightly to our column 3 commitments. If I assume that if others don't always like me, then I am not a good person and cannot like myself (a Big Assumption), then I will stay committed to having everyone like me (a Hidden Commitment). In fact, I must have everyone like me so that I will never have to experience the possibility that I am not a good person or that I cannot like myself.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="big-assumptions-bad" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Do your Big Assumptions have a "big time bad" conclusion for you?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">The world is bigger than what our Big Assumptions have allowed us to see. We could explore this bigger world and have more choices about how to live and behave, but we don't, because our Big Assumptions haven't let us. They warn us of the danger, the dire consequences, the catastrophe that awaits us if we don't live according to their rules. If at least some of your Big Assumptions don't suggest that some terrible fate awaits you if you violate your Hidden Commitments, go back and revise your entries to include that sense of danger by TODO-LINK</tip>
<tip reject="understand">It would be much easier to change the beliefs and behaviors that work against our goals if we didn't worry that these changes might very likely lead to bad results. The bad results are the things we fear and worry about in column 3. And if we had to actually experience those bad results, then something even worse might happen! At least some of your Big Assumptions should tell you what you believe that even worse thing would be.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="big-assumptions-contracted-world" type="yes-maybenot-understand">
<question>Do your Big Assumptions display a contracted world?</question>
<tip reject="maybenot">Your Big Assumptions set clear limits on what you must do and what you must not do. That is, you should be able to see that your Big Assumptions are rules you have for how to live your life, rules you must always follow if you want to avoid danger and disaster and defeat. But you might also be able to see (at least hypothetically) that like any other rule, they could be broken. When we treat an assumption as if it is the absolute truth, we allow it to rule our actions. We allow it to shape everything we see. We don't consider or explore any other possibilities, and so it continues to hold enormous power over us. That is why it is a Big Assumption. But if and when we are able to name the Big Assumptions underlying our immunities to change, we are able to consider that they may not actually be 100% true, that they limit our choices, our view of what is possible. If you are having a hard time determining if your Big Assumptions do display a contracted world, you might ask someone else to look at them and see if he or she believes they are always and necessarily 100% accurate in his/her view. If you don't have at least one Big Assumption that you can see might not be 100% true 100% of the time, see if you can identify others that you can see might feel true but also might not actually be true. You can go back and revise your entry by TODO-LINK</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Do your Big Assumptions limit what you do? Do they limit what you can choose? Do they limit how you can think? If I assume that a good mother must always put her children's wants and needs before her own, then I am limiting myself. I don't allow myself to wonder whether a good mother can meet both her needs and her children's needs. I don't allow myself to say no to my children if they want something that I do not want. I don't even see that I am making choices because my Big Assumptions tell me I must think and behave in these ways.</tip>
</quizz>
<quizz name="big-assumptions-real" type="rating-understand" low="Least" high="Most">
<question>Do your Big Assumptions feel real to you?</question>
<tip reject="1,2,3">Some of your Big Assumptions may feel undeniably true ("What do you mean, "an assumption"? I think this is exactly the awful thing that would happen!"). Some assumptions you may know aren't really true (although you act and feel as if they were true); and some you may feel are only partially or sometimes true. Maybe there are some assumptions where you are unsure if they are true or not. All of these types of Big Assumptions should go in your 4th column, and will be valuable resources when you begin to do the work on overturning your immune system. But all of your Big Assumptions should feel like they have some degree of truth for you. Even if you can intellectually argue with yourself that your Big Assumption doesn't make sense, you should also be able to see that on some level, you are not convinced of that or you would be doing things differently than you are. If your Big Assumptions don't seem to feel real or true to you on some level, go back and revise them by TODO-LINK</tip>
<tip reject="understand">Do some of your Big Assumptions feel like they are true? Do they feel like they are not assumptions, but are just facts? Is it hard to imagine that they might not be true? That you could change your mind about any (or all) of them? Then your Big Assumptions feel real to you.</tip>
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<message type="completed">
Fantastic! You have indicated that your Big Assumptions make your Hidden Commitments totally necessary, that they have a "big time bad conclusion for you," that they display a contract world, and they feel real. Your map is now complete.
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<h3>Revising your entire map</h3>
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<p>This is your completed map. Congratulations on finishing it! At this point, you may wish to edit it to reflect the goals, commitments, and assumptions that you will be focusing on during the next few months. It's fairly common for your first draft map to have lots of goals, commitments, and assumptions, but when we move into the experiment phase, it can be helpful to focus only one, single, coherent story. You may also want to review the extra tips in the "Help on Revising Immunity to Change Maps" section (TODO-LINK). You are welcome to edit your map here. You will not lose your original map.</p>
<h4>Improvement goal:</h4>
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<answer name="improvement-goal" read_only="true" />
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<p>Revise here:</p>
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<answer name="improvement-goal-revised" />
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<h4>Doing / Not Doing Instead:</h4>
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<answer name="doing-not-doing-instead" read_only="true" />
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<p>Revise here:</p>
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<answer name="doing-not-doing-instead-revised" />
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<h4>Worry box:</h4>
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<answer name="worry-box" read_only="true" />
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<p>Revise here:</p>
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<answer name="worry-box-revised" />
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<h4>Hidden commitments:</h4>
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<answer name="hidden-commitments" read_only="true" />
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<p>Revise here:</p>
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<answer name="hidden-commitments-revised" />
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<h4>Big assumptions:</h4>
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<answer name="big-assumptions" read_only="true" />
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<p>Revise here:</p>
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<answer name="big-assumptions-revised" />
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<h3>Checking the entire map</h3>
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<mentoring-table name="TODO-MAP with big assumptions and revised fields" />
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<p>If you are satisfied with this map, you don't need to do anything else. If you are not satisfied with this map, you go back and revise again. TODO-LINK</p>
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